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May 4, 2026

Notes From a Spring of Travel

I’ve been busy this spring, but it hasn’t been work that’s kept me occupied. I took advantage of shoulder season prices for some weekends away, and more recently, went to visit family and friends in Canada.

Nice, France

In mid-March, I headed to a warm place: Nice, France. The day I arrived, rain poured down and clouds darkened the sunset. Standing on the windy, rainy pebble beach, looking at pastel buildings along the shoreline, I wondered if I’d left Brighton at all!

The next day’s brilliant sunlight made the Mediterranean Sea glow turquoise. Ah, there was the weather people go here for. I explored the Old Town’s rainbow buildings and cobblestones, the Cour Saleya flower market where I sampled local specialties (socca, a chickpea crepe, was my favourite), and climbed Castle Hill, exploring Parc de la Colline du Château with its ruins and views.

Another wonderful thing about Nice is how easy it is to take the train (a comfortable, convenient, double-decker train) back and forth to other parts of the French Riviera. So I went to Eze, a medieval village built on a cliff. The train took me to Nietzsche’s Path, which I climbed for an hour to reach the town. (Sadly, it didn’t offer any philosophical inspiration.) I also visited the gorgeous seaside town of Villefranche-sur-Mer and took a stroll around Monaco’s casino, gardens, and yacht-filled harbour.

Dublin, Ireland

My visit to Ireland began in Dublin with a stay in Clink i Lár hostel, a former jail. I was near many of the sights, including the Ha’Penny Bridge (named for its historic toll), Trinity College Dublin, where I saw the Book of Kells (an illuminated manuscript) and library, and the Temple Bar district, where I spent a fun night bar hopping and listening to live music in each venue.

I also ventured to Kildare County. Brigid has been a big inspiration for me, both the Celtic goddess and the saint who later shared her name. I visited St. Brigid’s Well in County Clare with its statue, St. Brigid’s Cathedral (former site of St. Brigid’s mixed-gender monastery and eternal flame) and Church in Kildare Town, and the smaller St. Brigid’s holy well in Kilcullen, along with a nearby fairy trail that featured folklore plaques and fairy houses.

Back in Dublin, I toured St. Patrick’s Cathedral, visited the Guinness Storehouse, and ate potato cakes.

Some sights in Dublin and Kildare County

Lake District, England

I spent Easter in the Lake District, contemplating a move that didn’t work out. I’m glad to have spent more time in this beautiful part of the world, though. I spent time in Windermere, Bowness-on-Windermere, and nearby Lancaster.

I’ve done a lot of the tourist things on previous visits, such as taking a cruise and seeing Wordsworth’s home and the Beatrix Potter museum. This time, I was visiting late enough in the season to see Beatrix Potter’s old Hill Top farmhouse and gardens, which took a ferry ride and a long climb. The writer was a real character, studying botany, writing in a secret code she invented, and farming and preserving much of the local landscape, including the Herdwick sheep breed.

P.E.I. and New Brunswick, Canada

Going from the UK to Canada, I left spring flowers for a bit of lingering snow.

First, my brother and I stayed with my mom on Prince Edward Island, where she was house- and dog-sitting. We stayed in a beautiful farmhouse with horses in the field and fit games of fetch in between our jobs. I caught up with old friends from my P.E.I. school days, some of whom I hadn’t seen in 20 years! Then I went with my mom to her home in New Brunswick, saw another old friend, visited beaches, sold books to a local libraries, and fed chickadees on a nature trail.

So, it’s been a busy time. Despite uncomfortable plane rides and jet lag, I find travel to be one of life’s most enlivening experiences. Every trip changes my perspective in some way. Now I’m back in my flat, and I’ve planted some pots of seeds from overseas. I look forward to seeing what grows.

It’s hard to believe that this time last year, I had recently launched a book (my poetry collection The Heart Decided to Move), was going back and forth from Boston to see my dad in the hospital, and was part of a team working frantically to bring Joan: the Musical onstage in the Brighton Fringe! It all feels a million miles away. I’m grateful that this year, I’ve been able to travel by choice, not circumstance.

For now, I’ve put away my suitcase and am focusing on the Climbing High speculative fiction anthology I’m editing. The public call for submissions has closed, and commissioned contributors have been sending in wonderful stories. It’s time for me to travel through words.

February 5, 2024

New Year, New Attempts at Hard Things

*Image: MSGT Jon Nicolussi, U.S. Air Force, 2003.*

Goal setting is a topic that’s attracted a long-time blend of fascination and skepticism from me. I often set and try to achieve goals. Sometimes they go well. Other times, the results… well, they make good stories!

Anecdotally, I’ve seen that achieving things is usually a process, and successes tend to have invisible trails of “failures” behind them. I’ve had feedback that others have liked my blogs about the process of trying new things and the stumbling blocks I’ve encountered along the way. So, here are a couple of things I’ve been trying and stumbling over this year.

Personal Training

In November, I began working with a personal trainer. I’ve maintained an exercise habit for years, as it clearly helps with my physical and mental health, but this is the first time I’ve sought personalized guidance. I wanted to have an exercise plan that I could do at home, which would help me build skill and strength from where I was. I felt like I’d only gotten so far with the “DIY” approach. And, as a former chosen-last-in-gym kid, I lacked physical confidence.

My trainer, Kat Saunders, created a feeling of psychological safety. She was encouraging and nonjudgmental. Also, our initial assessment showed I had reasonable strength in most areas, contrary to my low expectations, though I had some things to work on. That was a relief, affirming that my years of imperfect yet regular exercise had a tangible effect.

I had a shaky, anxious start. I committed longer than the single month I’d intended, then freaked out at one point, thinking I wasn’t seeing the changes I’d hoped for, and it was all useless. But I needed to give things a little more time and to have an external assessor (Kat, in this case) show me changes I couldn’t see myself.

After two months, my trainer assessed me again. My body is more balanced, and my posture has visibly improved. I saw an 18% increase in the weight I could lift. These changes in physicality have improved my confidence, and I’ve found more ease when attempting new physical activities. I’ve committed to a group of monthly training sessions following my two months of weekly ones. I look forward to seeing how they go.

Treats for Trying

Effort and results don’t always match. I’m sure most of us have experiences of trying hard and getting nowhere, and other times when, for example, we quickly paint a blob on canvas and hear, “That’s such a good painting!”

I’ve set myself writing goals and a schedule this year. It requires effort and patience. It’s not always fun, and there’s no guarantee of “success” in terms of external markers. But, of course, there’s no chance of these “successes” happening without putting in that time and effort.

I find it hard to feel proud of myself for trying: “What if all I’m doing is wasting time?” So, I’m recognizing my efforts with rewards.

It started as a joke. Duolingo was spamming me with emails about learning a new language in the new year. I’ve been practicing Spanish in other ways since taking a course last year, but I told myself, “I’ve been working hard on my writing goals. I can have a little Duolingo, as a treat!”

Why does language learning feel like a “treat”? Because it’s easy! (Well, languages may not be, but the gamified Duolingo format is.) Because it’s a regular way to recognize my regular efforts at the harder things. And because it’s not tied to a specific goal or outcome. It’s nice to hear exaggerated praise from that little green owl, and if it stops feeling rewarding, I’ll do something else.

I’ve thought long and hard about what feels like a reward to me. I can say something is a reward, but it doesn’t work unless it feels like one. Ease and frivolity make things feel rewarding. If I need it (like food, clothes, rest, or socialization, no matter how fancy their forms), it doesn’t feel like a treat.

I’ve started a list of things that do feel treat-like. I’m “treating myself” regularly to recognize my regular efforts. I bought a cookbook after finishing a project. Did I need it? No. But I allowed myself to get that thing I wanted.

I’m rewarding my impatient self for cultivating patience. And I’m rewarding myself with things that aren’t tied to goals, so they feel transgressively luxurious, but positive. So far, it’s been a motivating strategy, so I plan to continue with it, keeping an adaptive mindset and seeing how it goes.

June 1, 2023

“Take Chances, Make Mistakes”: Two Weeks in Barcelona

I was getting off the metro in Barcelona when I noticed all the passengers’ eyes drifting to one spot on the platform. A young woman had a thread trailing from her backpack, as long as multiple subway cars. Everyone was staring, but no one was pointing it out to her. And I was closest.

Armed with my beginner Spanish, I got her attention: “Ma’am! Ma’am with the glasses!” Once she looked at me, I did my best to communicate the problem. I pointed to the super-long thread and mimed. And out of my mouth came the words, “I have a…line.”

It would have been much better if I hadn’t confused the verb forms for “I” and “you,” wouldn’t it? Or if I’d known the word for “thread” (but let’s stick with the basics here). But she got the idea and thanked me!

I took two weeks in May to travel to Barcelona and attend Spanish classes in the hope of improving those newbie-level language skills I’ve just demonstrated. I had a fabulous time, but it sometimes felt like I’d bitten off more than I was prepared to chew!

Learning Spanish was one of those goals that stuck in the back of my mind for years. In French Immersion school growing up, I did well with learning French. People had this idea that I was good with languages. Maybe I should take a Spanish course?

I’ve made various attempts to “start to learn Spanish” over the years, none of them terribly committed. I stayed with a Spanish-speaking host family in Montreal at age 16 and asked one of the daughters if she could teach me some of the language…given that she wasn’t a teacher, we got as far as parts of the face. I bought a Rosetta Stone CD in graduate school…and never used it. In 2022, I requested an online Spanish course for Christmas, and got through two of the introductory mini-courses in a whole year. There was just no accountability.

Then, in January, I started learning Spanish on Duolingo. Every day, a little green owl on my phone guilt-tripped me into doing a lesson, or two, or more if I was feeling on top of things. They were bite-sized, easy, and I was learning. In a hotel this spring, I met a Spanish-speaking woman who didn’t understand the English spoken around her, and I was actually able to communicate…well, a couple of things. I could translate “hot coffee,” though more complicated items tended to break down. It was a heady experience, though!

The next step seemed to be an in-person course. I’d wanted to visit Barcelona for a while, so I booked one with Camino Barcelona. They had a lot of flexible options, including activities every evening that you could participate in if you wanted to. I asked to stay with a host family, and off I went!

The host was a woman who rented out rooms to students at multiple schools. During week 1, an Italian woman and a Japanese woman were staying there as well, with the Japanese visitor staying for both weeks. Our host offered half-board, with three-course meals at 8:30 every night. When I arrived, she explained some of the house rules (in Spanish, of course), and I stood there blinking, rather confused. That’s when I realized how challenging the next two weeks were going to be.

I haven’t forgotten supernatural teacher Ms. Frizzle’s instructions on The Magic School Bus, a TV cartoon from my childhood, to “take chances, make mistakes, and get messy!” My stay in Barcelona was a prime opportunity to do that! On day 1, Eugenia the Italian asked how long I was staying, and I said, “I’m 35 years old.” On the weekend, Mathilde “voluntold” me to take Yuka with me to museum night. What time? “New thirty,” I said. What a relief when Yuka asked me at the subway station, “Do you speak English?”

Classes were a bit easier. It was strange to have homework each day, but the teaching, which was also entirely in immersive Spanish, progressed at a level that proved quite understandable. I’ve taught English as a Second Language before, which gave me some empathy for language learners, but I gained a new level of it on the other side of the desk. I met some intriguing globe-trotting polyglots, and toured several neighborhoods (and, one memorable afternoon, fumbled my way through dance classes), picking up on the Spanish as the instructors spoke it.

Barcelona had lovely weather and beaches, and astonishing architecture that I’ll have to come back to explore more fully. (Too bad, so sad, right?) Some of my adventures were memorable, like the day I went to Montserrat, a lovely monastery in the mountains. As I was preparing to leave, I heard singing. A statue of Mary had appeared before a crowd of worshippers in orange scarves holding paper candle lanterns, praying and chanting hymns to it!

I learned a lot in those two weeks, but it’s clear that I have a long, LONG way to go. Potential and expectations are funny things – so much so that I wrote a whole novel about them. And languages are complex to learn. I’m grateful to have been exposed to French early in school because, even if you have some aptitude for languages, they take an immense investment of time and effort. Someday I’ll be making more sophisticated mistakes than “I have a line,” and I intend to keep taking chances and practicing messily until I reach that day!

January 6, 2020

This New Year, Be Yourself

Every year around late December and early January, I see posts on social media about new year’s resolutions. I’ve made a bit of a tradition of writing about this phenomenon, whether it’s giving tips about setting effective goals by being more specific or reflecting on the need for baby steps toward change rather than planning to overhaul one area of your life all at once. There’s something about the process of resolution-making that both inspires and annoys me. Here are my thoughts for this new year’s rant: How many of us are setting goals based on the person we are, and how many of us are making resolutions that we hope will transform us into someone else?

Over the holidays, I watched a documentary about Mister Rogers. One of the songs featured on his iconic children’s TV show, Mister Rogers’ Neighborhood, and explored in the film, began like this:

“I like you as you are
Exactly and precisely
I think you turned out nicely
And I like you as you are.”

He said that every child needed to hear that message, because it’s not something that children are told. I realized that adults don’t hear this either. No matter your age, this message has an impact.

A lot of new year’s efforts have the noble goal of adding value to our lives. Health-related habit changes can bring us energy and vitality. Ambitious goals can help us achieve the things that we wish to. At times, though, these efforts are inspired from without instead of from within. We’re told to be this way or that way, and we take the things the world tells us to be and turn them into our yearly aspirations for self-improvement, which we may or may not carry out. Rather than being accepted and accepting ourselves exactly as we are, we treat ourselves as things that must change.

What if we took this decade as a time to be more ourselves? We could set goals that take who we are and accentuate it. Goals that celebrate the best parts of us. Goals that nourish parts of ourselves we know are there but don’t always express. Or we could set aside goal setting for the time being and take time to be.

There are things I’d like to do in 2020, but I’ll take my old self with me as I do them. No “new me”… just a new year, a new decade, and whatever they happen to bring.